Like many goods and services today, Marriage Counseling is now available online. What was once available on a face to face basis is now available to the consumer at a time of their choosing.
Often, spouses see differences as “win or lose” situations. You need to understand that there is no losing in marriage – yes, you read correctly. No losing means you both win so long as you can come to an agreement. Fixing a broken marriage requires negotiation, and the first key to negotiation is communication. If you need help learning how to negotiate, try family counselling.
Family and friends, even though they might not realise, choose sides. If you’re the person who’s asking for their opinion, they will try to help you by suggesting things that would benefit you – not both of you. They really do not wish to make matters worse for you or your other half but they give advice that will help one of you a lot more than the other.
Solution: Marriage counseling online is conducted at the privacy of your own home. No time is wasted to get to and from the sessions, but more importantly, it’s available almost 24/7. Even if it’s in the middle of the night, you can send an email, or pick up the phone and you will be helped almost immediately.
Friends, although they may not know it, take sides. For example if it is you who is the person who’s looking for advice, they may give advice that which only benefits you.. They do not want to worsen things for you or your spouse but they present advice that will benefit one of you a lot more than the other.
“I am not his freaking maid! It’s not my job to clean up his mess all the time.” J. angrily complained to me. Her voice seethingly bared all of her pent up frustration. She sounded like she was on the verge of tears from her built up frustration.
When a marriage is in trouble, one of the first things people do is to go to family and friends for advice. Sometimes this isn’t the best idea. Family and friends should be there for support – someone to lean on, someone to listen. Why not for advice?
Your partner may not immediately see the value of such intervention and refuse to participate. Do not let this put you off. You should attend alone and with the help of your counsellor, you may be able to change their mind after a while.